Ahhhh, Forms of control!
It's called His needs, Her needs, and this is not how it's done. This is why we have so many "Ex's, in Texas", and everywhere else too. By this we should assume that you have already retained your divorce attorney, correct? Another statistic! And a few years from now, different face, same relationship, go do it again.
Excelor8tor, the bottom part of your photo is accurate, the top part is not. Rearrainge the top with the same number and type of controlls, but in different positions to reflect more accuracy in emotional prespective, and complexity.
We (Men & Women) don't work the same way, and forms of control (as listed above) will get you a ticket to ride every time.
I wish this was taught in High School, or at least as an undergraduate elective, Relationships 101, & 102.
Me? Jack21? Yeah, I'm a 61 year old veteran. Admittedly grossly of topic for this forum but since it started I'll add my $0.02. Veteran? Well, dysfunctional (abusive) family of origin, Vietnam Veteran (not that this makes any difference to the subject), 4th marriage (Ah, now we're getting somewhere), and a Cobra owner (actually, a co-owner with spouse #4).
After 3rd went South, went through about a year of psych analysis (what am I doing wrong?), and a 6 Month PAIRS (Practical Applications of Intimate Relationship Skills) Course (How do I get it right this time?) spouse #4 and I are getting it right.
I don't use forms of control on her (as I used to in previous elationships), and she no longer uses forms of control on me (I see right through them, and she stops). We're diffrent, and we respect that in each other.
Simple test of this difference. Open the hood of a Cobra, and the guys gather around to look at the engine. The women could care less. A woman with a newborn pulls back the blanket and all the women gather around to look. The guys could care less. That's nature. We're different, and there's nothing wrong with this.
Bottom line. You don't need this BS to communicate with each other. There are enough "Ex's in Texas"
If any of you want to go off line with this my e-mail is
jwalsh21@ix.netcom.com.