I have been told that its still the headlight relay that's bad, even though I just replaced it. I talked with Dennis Olthoff and he just had a customer with same problem ... changed headlight relay and it fixed problem.
Talked with guy at place I got the replacement relay and he said it has to externally grounded at the clip end. So I grounded it - no change.
So I just ordered a new one from local VW dealer rather than the web site I bought from last week (located in CA ... that must be the problem). It took UPS 8 working days to deliver the part!!!!!
Just finished supper - Chinese food!!!
Ah, I feel like conquering the world ... but for now, I think I'll just go iron a shirt!