[SuperHart]

Funny how many slants you can get on this subject by reading all of the responses. I agree with "Hey Little Cobra". Both of them are at fault but for different reasons. Also, abuse takes many forms and is a door that definitely swings both ways. Most of the time the male gets the blunt end of the stick in the abuse arena because we are bigger and stronger (usually). However, the verbal and psychological abuse that some women seem so adeptly capable of is just as damaging and demeaning as actual physical abuse. Usually, though, it is the man who ends up paying dearly in divorce, especially here in NJ, no matter what the underlying cause of the breakup. I know that all too well from personal experience.
You know, sometimes it IS just easier to remain in the marriage even when things aren't good. After all, what guarantee does anyone have that things will be better with the next relationship. I wonder if in two years that young cute Asian chick will turn into the same kind of psycho his wife seemed to be. Anyway, the only persons who ever win in a divorce are the attorneys. After 18 years with my second wife, I actually have come to the realization that I might have been better off working things out with my first rather than throwing in the towel.
Present wife has one helluva temper and doesn't hesitate to show it. When I married her I thought she was Miss Right. What I didn't realize at the time was that her first name was ALWAYS. What am I supposed to think of a woman whose only comment when she first saw my Cobra was "What an ugly looking little car." OUCH, that hurt.